Are there some people you've decided are greater than you?
Do you think if you create a problem, they will connect with you?
When you feel they getting too far away from you, so you will create a problem so they create a connection points with you that are comfortable for you!
How many people do this with you?
They manufacture an other problem, which is bigger than their old problems.
They will say: "I need you!"
Could you be just aware of it, and choose something different?
Would you be willing to destroy and uncreate all those connection points with everyone around you and stop creating those problems right away?